This is a subject much like the old "what is the best oil?" discussion and I think that it would border on impossible to get a definitive answer so this is the route I went.
I started off doing a LOT of reading and research and I know a heck of a lot more about batteries than I used to. I have all the technical skill and experience to design my own custom circuit and build my own split charging system so I started costing and sourcing the needed bits and pieces. This is where reality kicked in and I found the savings made by doing it myself does not really justify the effort put in to the project. My system would have been based around the Cole Heresee solenoid and the cost of the materials came close to the nat luna split charging system. The deciding factor was the ultimate reliability of the system and the effect of finding out that I had overlooked a detail or two when the system fails somewhere in the bundu and all my steak defrosts.
So rather than reinventing the wheel I went with the nat luna and everything just worked out fine with the best part of the deal not coming in the package... Peace of mind
As soon as the alternator starts pumping power in to the starting battery a timer of 5min. is started and when it kicks in both batteries are connected to the alternator, when the vehicle is switched off the battery voltage stabilises at about 12.5 volt so when a voltage of 12.7 is reached the relay opens and only the second battery is drained. Simple and tested.
On the battery side I opted for a second crank battery as the time needed to fully charge a deep cycle was too long for me and I doubt that I will need to drop my voltage so low as to justify a deep cycle and with two 96 ah units I should be able to power a winch or weld without too much problem
One important point regardless of which system you go for is the wiring. Use the thickest cable you can get hold of (25mm - 35mm) and keep the runs as short as possible and solder all your joints to ensure good contact. Fit fuses to all your cable runs, 12v is a devil and folks tend to treat it with contempt, it wont shock you but it WILL start a fire quicker than you can blink your eyes.